Wanna Be PhD

PhD 2006. Now fully blown by the Postdoc Experience.

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Sunday, August 07, 2005

The new schedule = the new social life

As promised before my vacation, I wanted to make a schedule. Well, I didn't. But I decided to employ a completely new principle. Completely new to me, at least. I decided to have spare time, and to take part in social activities with people not belonging to academia.

So, I didn't spend the week end working or procrastinating, but I did social activities. On saturday, I went to a birthday party from a girl who is working in the creative industry. She runs an advertising company. Her appartment is so beautiful! She has a pent house with a huge balcony and a view over the whole city. Her male friends, all working in the creative business as well, were the most beautiful non-gay men I've ever seen. Everyone of them was tanned, shaved and had a nice hair cut. Their fingers including their fingernails were clean! They are easy going people, ready to talk. And: they all seem to be workoholics like I am, staying at the office from 10 a.m. until after midnight (they can't work at home because they need special computers and pens and desks). Two of them told me they never go out and they don't even know the up-to-date bars around town. I feel so relieved that I am not the only person not going out regularly!!

I thought of flirting. Well, to admit, I have made another thought change. I am definitely seeking a new boyfriend! But it was quite hard for me with all those unknown people. The first round was to talk to some of them and to find out what they're doing. In the second round, I started to check whether they had girlfriends. The third round wold have been to decide which one I liked and to start to talk to him, but at that time I was already too tired.

I made a new friend there. She's a photographer and very outgoing. I thought maybe I can meet her and hang out together. And maybe I can get to know her friends.

Today, there was a brunch some guy organzied. He has got the same grant as I do. There were about 20 people there, most of them male. I talked to three of them intensively. It was very nice. They were/are all excellent students, having degrees in more than one subject. Some of them are doing their dissertations right now, others have jobs already. It was so pleasurable because they understood what I am doing and why. And they all speak different languages and can talk about lots of different subjects.
I didn't know how to make friends with them. I only exchanged emails with one guy who is doing something I did as an undergraduate. I guess time will tell. I'll go to the next meeting.

What is the best tactic? Asking for the phone number directly? Giving one's own phone number?

Finally, I have a new cello teacher (my former one is for vacation). She's very cool - playing the cello wearing a mini skirt! And, I saw her brother today. Verrrry sexy!


Blogger academic coach said...

Good for you. Keep it up. Viva social lives!

Thursday, August 11, 2005 11:02:00 AM  

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